Together Online — Together Offline
Building real-life connection for the gay community through events, friendship, and shared experiences
TOTO by Friend of Dorothy is a non-profit initiative helping gay people find meaningful connection beyond the screen. In a world where online spaces can feel isolating or toxic, we create welcoming offline events where gay people can meet, talk, and build genuine friendships. Because no one should feel left out — and no one should feel lonely.
our mission
We are TOTO - a non-profit community initiative helping the gay community build stronger real-life connections.
Loneliness is one of the most common challenges in the LGBTQ+ community. While digital platforms promise connection, many people still struggle to find genuine community.
TOTO exists to change that.
We support real-life connection by helping create welcoming spaces where people can meet naturally, make friends, and feel part of something bigger.
No one left out.
No one feeling lonely.
Stronger connections together.
What we do
EVENTS
We organise welcoming social events where people can meet in real life — from relaxed meetups to community gatherings.
Download the App to Discover EventsCONVERSATIONS
Through the Friend of Dorothy podcast, we explore loneliness, belonging, mental health, and the experiences that shape queer life today.
Listen to the PodcastFUNDING
As a non-profit, we support members of the community who want to create their own inclusive events. If you have an idea for a gay community event, you can apply for TOTO funding to help make it happen.
Apply for Event Funding
Part of the Friend of Dorothy Community
TOTO is a non-profit initiative created within the Friend of Dorothy ecosystem.
Friend of Dorothy supports the LGBTQ+ community through healthcare services, community initiatives, and wellbeing resources designed to improve connection and support.
Together we are building something bigger — a community where people can access support, healthcare, and genuine human connection.
Real Moments. Real Community.
Our events bring people together in relaxed environments where conversations flow naturally and friendships grow.
Board of Trustees
Oliver James
Trustee
Oliver brings over 15 years of experience in nonprofit leadership and community development.
Azamat Valiyev
Trustee
Azamat is passionate about social impact and has dedicated his career to advancing charitable causes.